evian wrote:People are going so far as to excuse totally racist statements he makes and still think he has morals, and this is not a group that just tolerates racism, or so I thought. They're so totally deluded by him I have no understanding how it's even possible. Just total human sheep. He could lead them to carry out genocide the way he's able to get them to deny facts right in front of them. People I thought had brains of their own.
evian wrote:How to counteract a smear campaign when the proof he's lying is highly private stuff I have too much loyalty/decency to show? I've lost 20 friends over this, my remaining ones in common with him are either taken in by him or are saying "get over it" while staying his friend, and I'm having panic attacks/suicidal thoughts over this. NO one is even willing to go to him saying "I know this info exists" cause they are all so taken in by him.
This "Confrontation System" was dreamed up decades ago as an extreme, last ditch plan to "enlighten" alcoholics. The success rate was close to nil! How is it going to change someone who is perfect?evian wrote:"This is the first and, by far, the most critical step on the way to coping with the disorder: will the narcissist admit, be forced, or convinced to concede that he is absolutely and unconditionally wrong, that something is very amiss in his life, that he is in need of urgent, professional, help and that, in the absence of such help, things will only get worse? Having crossed this Rubicon, the narcissist is more open and amenable to constructive suggestions and assistance.
The second important leap forward is when the narcissist begins to confront a more REALISTIC version of himself. A good friend, a spouse, a therapist, a parent, or a combination of these people can decide not to collaborate with the narcissist's confabulations anymore, to stop fearing the narcissist and not to acquiesce in his folly any longer.
When they confront the narcissist with the truth about himself, they help demolish the grandiose phantom that "runs" the narcissist. They no longer succumb to his whims or accord him a special treatment. They reprimand him when needed. They disagree with him and show him why and where he is mistaken. In short: they deprive him of many of his sources of Narcissistic Supply. They refuse to take part in the elaborate game that is the narcissist. They rebel."
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