evian wrote: the fact that I do care about him and have told him I won't stop trying to communicate with him unless he makes it absolutely clear he doesn't want to talk to me by blocking me.
NPDers, what could someone do in this situation to make it so that your ego defenses wre lowered enough that you could approach them in the spirit of trust and cooperation rather than one-upmanship/fear/control?
It's nice that you care about this person....however, there is nothing that YOU can to do "make" him trust or respect you. I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear, but you're in the devaluation phase with him, while YOU are trying to get back to the honeymoon phase. Won't happen. His behavior is pathological; and your attempts aren't going to inspire a willingness to change...quite the opposite, actually. In being a willing participant to his drama, you are only perpetuating his behavior and providing him an outlet for control issues. This relationship is NEVER going to be what you want it to be---and you could possibly waste years of your life before realizing your efforts are completely futile. His mindgames will keep you tied to him in a dysfunctional way--until he disappears/finds someone else and leaves you devastated. The sooner you wake up from the fantasy, the better off you'll be. Trust me, I've been there.
Since this "relationship" is all online, you should consider seeking out a real-life companion that loves and respects YOU for you.