SillySalmon wrote:It's a no win situation with her.
Give a sincere 'thanks', cut ties, and don't look back. There, you just won the game.
After awhile, maybe months, maybe years, maybe decades, when the reverberations in your head finally stop and you can look at the face in the mirror and see a whole person, perhaps there might be time to see if there is anything worth salvaging. Like as not, you just might find, on reflection, that it's not worth the bother. There is no shame in walking away and finding your own path.
Best o' luck.