Etzel wrote: According to you, your "narcissist" is giving you a "silent treatment". This, for us, English speakers, becomes: "Your romantic interest doesn't give a shít about you".
Etzel, thank you for your reply, but my narc is NOT a romantic interest. I am married to a wonderful man. Not all relationships are romantic. I appreciate the advice, but this is not a dating situation. It's an old family friend, considered a family member, who is currently living with me and my husband. Sadly, I have several narc's in my life. We are all sad that my grandmother passed away recently (from old age) but I do have to say a small burden was lifted from her children.
-- Tue Jun 11, 2013 2:32 pm --
VirginiaEsquire wrote: That's actually one of the reasons that Narcissists and Borderlines get along. The Borderline woman will say something that will bruise the Narcissistic man's ego, he will instantly devalue her and stop talking to her, and she will feel abandoned and try to win him back (repeating the cycle of abuse from her past).
Thank you! Your response was extremely helpful. I used to be borderline (after years of therapy and meds, I no longer fit the criteria), so I believe that his silent treatment triggered my abandonment issues. As soon as I took a long look at myself, I felt more comfortable with his behavior, because I knew that my response was my responsibility and since I couldn't control his, I could control mine.
I really appreciate your response and it gave me so much insight! I began to go about my business as normal for the past few days and contacted him only about his portion of the rent and, guess what, he started talking to me again! Thanks to this forum and your response, I now have a better understanding of the mind and needs of a narc and how to not let it trigger my own issues. Luckily I have a supportive husband who was very understanding of my breakdown.