I will do my est to keep this short...
My 68 yr old mother is an extreme Narcissist, and I came to take care of her since no one else could handle being around her for too long. Each one of my siblings would get fed up with her abuse, tantrums and demands within a month or two at the most.
Well, I moved from another state to live my mother, and also have my children go to the school I attended as a child.
I moved in and found that she was about 5 months behind in her rent, and did not care about it at all. She kept brainwashing her husband and the landlord.
Eventually her husband got tired of the lies and manipulations, he left her....The landlord started leaving eviction notices on her door.
I called up the landlord and paid off my mother's past due rent and also started taking over the payments. I paid all of her bills, electricity, cable and rent. I lasted about 9 months of her verbal abuse, her emotional put downs, and mental mind manipulations. It was exhausting, but I put up with it, since she is my mother and no one could handle her.
Eventually she wanted to move in one of her golden children (my drug addict niece)....I put my foot down and objected. My mother and I got into verbal debates on why I could not have a free loading drug addict around my 3 minor children.
My mother turned a blind eye and projected my niece's mental illness on me as if I was the one on drugs and alcohol...calling my children, "retards" and "stupid"....she even started to physically abuse my children, in which I stepped in and stopped her.
I also talked to the landlord and told him I couldn't have my niece living with me, because she was taking drugs all over the house and she would bring her drug addict husband and they broke windows, doors, and other things in the house.
Landlord agrees to allow me to kick out my niece, and also came by to draw up a new lease.
I didn't get copies of the lease that day, my landlord told me he would bring me copies the next month when the rent was due. (My mistake in not making my own copies!)
2 weeks later, my niece is living in our house with my mother and I and 4 of my children.
My niece is also a Narcissist but one on drugs! Each time I left for work, I would come back to my mother screaming bloody murder at my kids and then turning on me.
One day I came home and I told my mother I have had enough of her and my niece doing nothing but talking crap all day about anybody and everybody while my niece took drugs right in front of my mother and my children. My mother was totally in denial, although I have witnessed this myself...
I called the landlord and he told me to call the police.
As soon as my mother knew that I called the police to remove my niece from the house, she attacked me,. She threw a 5 lb mug at my pregnant belly, and I started bleeding.
When the police arrived, they arrested my mother for physical violence....and my niece bailed my mother out and brought her back home. This time they brought my niece's drug addict husband to threaten me to move out.
I had a 24 hr stay away order on my mother so I called the police again to get my niece and her husband out but the only way was to arrest my mother again!
As soon as my mother came out after spending 2 days in jail, she went to stay with my sister...
While at my sister's I went over there and took her clothing and medication.
I told her to come home, but she refused to come back without my niece....
Instead she called the landlord daily and told him all kinds of vicious lies that I banned her from the house, and she is a disabled person (all lies) she played the victim so well, yet I was the one who got attacked!
My landlord started calling me and harassing me to get out and then he threatened me that he will not give me any copies of the lease we signed. Yet he still collected money from me for rent.
It has been pure hell these past 2 months, but so far, I have my rental receipts for the past 9 months, and a police officer in which the landlord told that I was on the lease.
I am shocked that my landlord is getting involved as if I am the perpetrator in this!
Can someone give me some advice? My mother is a complete monster, and I asked my landlord to give me my 45 days notice so I could find a place for myself and my kids, and he just went nuts.
So far, my landlord is too afraid to file court papers and the police will not involve themselves with a civil matter, and the landlord continues to take my rental payments, but he harasses me daily!
My mother comes over as she pleases and brings the drug addict niece to torment my children, we just ignore them and remain polite.
I am going tomorrow to file a restraining order against my mother since I have police reports on her abuse.
It's tough dealing with a monster and other people are looking at me as if I am crazy to be so cruel, when I am the real victim in this!