reflection wrote:The innocence would play an important role because in the beginning they would need a person to buy into the illusion that they present. To do that there has to be some gullibility or naivety.
I agree. He used to say, gesturing with his hands palms up as if they were balance scales:
"You're so smart, and you're so dumb." and the hands were level, then he'd repeat with emphasis:
"You're so smart, and you're SOOO DUUMB." and on the DUUMB, he lower that hand way down.
By dumb, I thought at first that he meant too trusting in people generally. As time went by I began to think he was talking about himself and the cheating. But I wasn't all THAT naive. When his cologne disappeared and he was telling me not to wear perfumes, yeesh, how stupid did he think I was?
And if I used offensive language, he would reprimand me: "Why would someone with your intelligence and education talk like that?" He had an image that he wanted me to project, that he wanted to be with. And it was woman on a pedestal.