When autistic children are exposed to trauma they tend to revert. They will typically go through a period where they will have to relearn some things they already knew but the recovery is generally very quick. SO you might have been seeing some autistic behavior those first couple weeks. He sounds like if he is Autistic he is likely high functioning. Have you studied Aspergers?
A misdiagnosis of ADHD and the subsequent prescription of Ritalin could have easily caused his aggression, depression, and likely caused the requirement of sleeping pills. I am surprised that the ADHD prognosis remained after the diagnosis of Autism… these diseases are too similar to be comorbid, one is either adhd, or autistic… not both. But this is a Doctor’s mistake… not a mothers.
SO… all you have left is the 50 days of Illness. If it were MBP you would expect to see some doctors records from those days of illness. Either throughout the periods of sickness or at the end period of sickness when she loses control of her own treatments.
I think it is more likely that he is staying home from school with her, he isn’t directly sick, but she is. I think it’s possible that she is Munchausen… but I am just not seeing By Proxy. Regardless his mother is not healthy, mentally or physically. But you do not want to bring up MBP unless you are certain, and even then… why bring it up if he is now safe?
Check out Learned helplessness, particularly in regards to Autism. Autistic children tend to be eager to please… they want to be what you want them to be… or what you tell them to be, directly or indirectly. I suppose like any other child, but I think with autistic kids the need can be stronger.
At any rate if she “his mom” believed that he was mentally and physically handicapped he probably found himself acting appropriately to fill the role.
“A child is a child first, then a child with disabilities,” says Batts, founder of Focus on the Future Training Center in Plano, an education center for children in pre-kindergarten through grade 12, who have autism and other mental disabilities. “If you as a parent see a child’s disability first, you literally drop a curtain over all of the things he might be able to accomplish. You’ll never be able to see your child’s potential,” she explains.