Thank you for your prompt reply.
Like she knows her upbringing was not normal and typical, but it is her normal. Does that make sense?
It is amazing how insane a child's "normal" can be. In abuse we often see examples of coping behavior learned as a child which becomes an issue later in life. As a child you adapt and prioritize. If you don't see normal behavior then what ever you experience becomes your normal. Makes it hard to adjust. Takes lots and lots of time, and usually maturity.
In 2 years she will be 18 and hopefully done high school. We have already decided that she will be moving out and learning to live independently.
Wish I had something for you, but I think until she is forced to survive without a safety net she will never become self aware. It is painful to write this, I have no idea how much more painful it is to live it.
I do strongly feel she is product of her environment in which she was raised, and buy the time she was removed at 13, she was just too enmeshed in the lifestyle to change, even after 3 years.
Correct, and she is too young to understand, truly understand.
I do not think that any poisoning was taking place, but I honestly don't know. I come to this conclusion that this was not her mom's MO as blood work was a very very regular treatment. The kid has been poked more times than I have breathed air! But this too was part of the sickness game as they were part of a kids program in the hospital system where kids get beads for every poke and procedure they receive. So I can't see her mom doing poisoning that could have been so easily detected. But I really don't know. The few times she has opened up about it, she said her mom would coach her with what to say and how to act. And she would drill her until she had it right.
Thanks for that info. It must have made them very close, but for all the wrong reasons.
Thank you for taking the time to reply. Any insight is greatly appreciated.
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