Doing real well actually. I have my days, but overall cannot complain. My life remains interesting and I have developed a dread of the mundane. You know those invites to the in laws parties (Christmas & Birthdays) where I do not want to ask "how are you", ....
"well the kids are ...the grand kids are... and at work I had to.. well you know ... work"....
now I know why people drink at these things ... the boredom..
well luckily for me I have a niece
been watching her for years. My brother in Law divorced when she was 1 and her mum wound up in an abusive relationship. The other issue is that her mum is maybe 95 on the IQ scale. So poor kid wound up with neglect and violence as a child. She has never admitted to being hit (we usually don't share that info) but I knew things were wrong. She would never change clothes in our house when we gave her pretty new dresses, she was a master manipulator of her old Dad, guilt-ed the poor guy to near neurosis, but she also was developmentally delayed. Her mum left when she was 16 and did she ever grow after that. Very tall now. Pretty sure she had Kasper Hauser Syndrome, and you don't get that in happy homes.
I am the only one who understands what she went through. Each time we meet she opens up a little more. I wish I had had someone like that years ago. At least it takes the mind numbing of these in-law gatherings.
Started collecting comic art, keeping fit but not competing anymore, used to throw and lift in Masters categories internationally, and started lobbying to have Child Abuse PTSD treated seriously by the legal profession, just as schizophrenia now is.
Trying to get a Survivor support group run in Sydney, bigger task to do it right that I first thought, but still working on it and coming to the conclusion that if I work a little more at myself I can be even happier.
and huge thank you for all the info you provided, I cannot thank you enough..