peanut2828 wrote:Is it normal for a Narcissist to move on so quickly after asking for a separation?
peanut2828 wrote:The only thing I did was not sell our house, move our kids, give up my good job
Good thinking! I hope you didn't actually go and do it! I get the impression from your writing that you didn't and his dream job didn't pan out either. So good thinking on your part.
peanut2828 wrote:he said he resented me for.
Of course, if his dream job doesn't pan out he'll never think it may have been because of him....it'll be your fault coz you didn't support him.
Within a week of leaving my diagnosed NPD partner he stated, "You are nothing to me. You are meaningless and mean nothing."
It's all a part of the 'black and white' thinking. You're either 'all good' or 'all bad'. In other words, since you didn't follow him to his dream job then anything good you've done in the past is totally eradicated by this one act, you are now devalued and classed as 'all bad'.
It also is a good indication that he's ready to move on to new NS already, which means he may not become a stalker....unless new NS is not forthcoming, then he may wheedle his way back, so watch out for that, don't fall for it.
Good luck with your new-found freedom, your new life free of fear and abuse, and settle the financials as quickly as needed or just change the locks!!!! There is the possibilty that he may totally abandon you, the kids and the house in a tidy package. (I'm just going off your post that says he's referring to his new life, if he's younger he may be apt to do this, but if he's older (say over 45) he may not wish to let go of any finances that quickly.)
But.....he also may not, and may mess with your head, the kids and the finances.....so be prepared for that, they can get quite nasty.
Take care and all the best.