PLEASE HELP! DEATH OF BOYFRIENDS CHILD!

My situation is complicated.. My boyfriend left his wife a year ago. They had two daugthers, a 15 year old and a 5 year old. We have currently been living together for 7ish months. During the 7 months he has been going through the divorce and custody process. He would bring the children into our home. The past month or so the 15 year old stopped coming around. My guess mostly because of the momn saying stuff. On Friday we were suppose to go to court to get the custody ruling finalized... The Monday before, the 15 year old passed away in a tragic accident. I was at the hospital for everything, and my boyfriend seemed everything would be fine with us. I couldn't go to the funeral or the wake, because his ex is seriously psycho and would just flip out, and i didn't want to make the situation worse, so I respected that. But since the day after he came home from the hospital of her passing he has not stayed at home. Which we also share with my daughter who I had previously, but calls him dad, and only knows him as her dad. She will be 2. We were planning on getting married, and he was planning on adopting my daughter, etc. But he won't talk to me, he won't text me, or call me, he won't tell me he loves me. I asked if he still wants to be with me and will respond "I don't know what I want right now, I'm just so numb" and I said well why can't you come home and stay, and he said it's not fair to you and B if I have to run down to where his other daughter is at her moms all the time, when she calls. And he just says, I just want to be alone, I don't want to talk about it, I don't want to be asked questions, and I have lawyers calling me, and the cost of it, etc... but he stays at his parents at night and I asked him why, and he said because his parents just leave him alone. He says he has so much guilt because he felt he should have been there for his daughter, and he walked away from her. I feel like he's going to hate me, because he walked away and was spending that time with me and my daughter instead of his daughters, and maybe thats why he doesn't want to be with us? Other times I tell my self he just needs time and he just doesn't know what to think and doens't want to be bothered... but I guess I just don't understand. I'm worried he will never come back. I'm worried he will tell me that he would just rather be alone and focus on his relationship with his other daughter than be with me and my daughter too. I'm scared. We always said we were soulmates, and now... nothing. What do I do?

Of course he doesn't care about anything right now , his child died. Give the poor man some space and leave him be for a while.

How would you feel if this happened to you?

I agree with color. I think you should give him some space so that he can mourn the loss of his daughter.

If it is meant to be, the two of you can resume your relationship when he is ready.

He has been through one of the most devastating, painful experiences that no parent should ever have to go through. His entire world has been shattered, turned upside down, and he is experiencing grief that no one can comprehend, unless they have lost a beloved child themselves. Please give him all the space he needs. This is the most loving thing you can do for him. Try to imagine how he is feeling. What has happened to him is terrible, truly terrible. This is a situation where you HAVE to put him before yourself, hun, and let him grieve in the way that he needs to.

My son passed away 2 years ago and I have to say it is hard real hard. I didnt talk to anyone in my family for 6 months and even then I still didnt talk much. Every time I looked at or talk to someone that was in my sons life I would breck down and cry. Sometimes keeping to yourself till you can calm down and work things in your head is the best thing to do. Its nice to know people are there for you but just dont over do it by buging him cause thats a fast way for you to get pushed out of someones life. My prays goes out to him and his family. God bless