Please help me! please!

Hi. I just became a member here.

I just want to know what is wrong with me and my sister. I was searching Google but they don't seem to be providing adequate answers. Just trying my luck here.

Okay. My sister tried to suicide, again, about a month ago. Last time she tried to suicide she was on ecstasy pills. But this time she says she was only drinking alcohol, which it is hard for me to believe. Because when I came home every object you can think of were disorganized all over the place. It really was a mess. This wasn't new for her so I just told her to clean the mess while I was getting ready to go out. This is when she asked me not to leave, she said she is scared and she couldn't stay home alone. I asked her what scares her she answered ghosts. I asked her if she has seen any ghost she answered no. So I tried to leave and there she showed her blood soaked wrists with a large number of cuts. It was pretty damn shocking to me. I stayed calm and asked her what happened. She said she didn't know what happened. How does she cut her wrists numerous times not knowing? I sat her down and observed rooms in the house to see what happened for myself. I could see blood stains on my room's door which tells me that she tried to open my room knowing that I was not home, my room is not accessible without me. I could find more blood stains in bathrooms and on a wooden cross. I assume she was so scared and had to hold onto the cross.

Okay. That was the craziest moment of my life. I am keep thinking about why she would do such things. The worst part is that I keep seeing her showing her wrists in my head. After going through such incident I am completely out of will and power to do anything. I just want to vanish from where I am and start a different life.

Why am I feeling like this? And how I must react to such feelings?
What IS her problem? Do you think she is suffering from any mental disorder? e.g. schizophrenia?
Or, do I need to get a help from a priest? i.e. exorcist?
I know alcoholics may suffer from schizophrenia. Is this the case?

Please help....!

Sometimes cuts on the wrists are more a cry for attention, then an actual suicide attempt. Perhaps you should sit down and talk to her, in a calm manner and ask her why she feels this way, and what you can do to help her.

Yoto88,

I would first like to say that I am terribly sorry for the things have been dealing with. I know that it must be difficult. I have seen this on both sides of the spectrum.

There is an actual forum that many individuals that create self injury go to. It is listed.

I am by no means attempting to diagnose - but here is what I do know:

When a person has no strong connection with God, and they feel like they should - they contain guilt. Guilt makes people do things they would naturally never do.

Here are some other common problems:

1. They have memories of people hurting them and they can't get over it.
2. They are unabe to forgive someone who has hurt them.
3. They believe they have no purpose.
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It is difficult to put self-injurers—or cutters, as they are sometimes called—into a single category. Some come from troubled families; others from stable, happy homes. A number are failing at school, but many are excelling as students. Often, self-injurers give little if any indication that they have a problem, for a person who is beset with adversity does not always show it on the outside. The Bible states: “Even in laughter the heart may be in pain.”—Proverbs 14:13.
Then, too, the severity of self-injury differs from one person to the next. One study, for example, found that some individuals cut themselves only once a year, while others average twice a day. Interestingly, more males are injuring themselves than was once thought. Still, the problem is found mostly among adolescent girls.
Even with such a diverse profile, some self-injurers seem to share certain traits. One encyclopedia on youths observes: “Adolescents who self-injure often feel powerless, have difficulty trusting others with emotions, feel isolated or alienated, feel afraid, and have low self-esteem.”
Of course, some may say that this description could fit almost any young person who is facing the fears and insecurities of growing up. For the self-injurer, though, the struggle is particularly intense. The inability to put troubled feelings into words and to express these to a confidant can make pressures from school, demands of work, or conflicts at home appear overwhelming. She sees no solution and feels she has no one to talk to. The tension feels unbearable. Finally, she discovers something: By hurting herself physically, she seems to find some relief from the emotional anguish, and she feels she can carry on with her life—at least for the moment.
Why does the cutter resort to physical pain in an effort to relieve emotional anguish? To illustrate, consider what happens when you are in a doctor’s office about to get a shot. As the process begins, have you ever found yourself pinching your skin or perhaps putting pressure on it with your fingernail, just to distract yourself from the sting of the needle? What the self-injurer does is similar, although on a more serious level. To the self-injurer, cutting provides a form of distraction and a sense of relief from the sting of emotional anguish. And the anguish is so great that by comparison physical pain is preferable. Perhaps that is why one self-injurer described cutting as “medicine for my fears.”

To those who are not acquainted with the disorder, self-injury may appear to be an attempt at suicide. But this is not usually the case. “Generally speaking, these people are trying to end just their pain, not their lives,” writes Sabrina Solin Weill, executive editor of a magazine for teens. Hence, one reference work refers to self-injury as “a ‘life preserver’ rather than an exit strategy.” It also calls the practice “a mechanism to cope with stress.” What kind of stress?
It has been found that many self-injurers have suffered some type of trauma, such as childhood abuse or neglect. For others, family conflict or the alcoholism of a parent is the factor. For some, a mental disorder is involved.

I hoped this helped

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There are multiple reasons someone might self harm. The bottom line, though, is that if your sister is hurting herself, she needs to be seen by a professional, especially since she has attempted suicide already. Talk to your parents and/or a school counselor about it and see what they say.

I can't tell how old you are... if everyone is an adult then there are only two ways you can get her in. Either sit down with her and convince her to go. Or wait until she's threatening to harm herself, or already has, and contact the authorities.

Hi - This is an awful lot for you as an untrained emotionally involved person to deal with. You are having flashbacks of her wrists and you seem very worried and trying to find help on the internet etc.
It may be it is just a "cry for help" with no serious intenetion to actually kill herself - but it may be more serioius - and that is too much responsibility for a brother to try to figure out I think.

I think you need to try to persuade her to go to a doctor. Would she be willing?

It sounds as if your sister urgently needs to see a doctor. The fact that she can't remember what she did is worrying. Please encourage her to speak to someone. If you come across your sister in this state again, you may need to phone the emergency services.

It sounds as if this has been very traumatic for you, and speaking to a therapist can help you to process all the emotions that you're feeling.

To the people who are trying to help thank you for your informative replies,

I've read every replies on here. Reading your replies helped me figure out the cause of her problem. I am sorry for uninformed stats of me and my sister. I am her 24 years old brother and she is 22.

She needs more attention. I believe this is true. Because from what I have been thinking she is needing attention that can never be fulfilled. Meaning no matter how much attention she receives she will still feel empty. I know this because we lost our dad when we were young and did not get enough love/attention from parents. Maybe the root of her problem is affection deficiency.

Lately I have talked to her friends about my sister. One of the friends told me she is sleeping with any guys "ONLY" when she is drunk. Other friends told me she is suffering from a sexually transmitted disease. The last friend I met told me she still does recreational drugs. From talking to her friends I found out that my sister thinks she is abondoned from us-family. I also found out that she has no real friends. I mean like a friend that is worth a childhood secret.

When a person has no strong connection with the God, and they feel like they should - they contain guilt. Guilt makes people do things they would naturally never do. by BrainyMomBlogger

I believe this is another reason why. Because my mother is a christian and she always tells us we must to go to church to find out the purpose of our lives. What I think is that my sister knows she needs to have some kind of connection with the God but satans are disturbing her mind.

The good news is that she says she wants to go see a professional. But the bad news is that she never goes. Can I force her into a hospital? Even if I could I wouldn't. I wish her to realize her problems and be ready for any treatment.


Now I see the cause of her problems. What about answers? Thanks in advance for your replies.


PS For my traumatic flashbacks, please don't worry about it. This is an interesting thing happened to me. I have been drinking coffee everyday for about 2months. I stopped drinking today because I saw an interesting article about coffee's crash and its side effects. In the last 2months I have been suffering from anxiety, insomnia, flashback of the incident, unable to think, and depression. They were all because of caffein crash. I felt like crap in the last 2months and thought it was because of the incident and flashbacks however after not drinking coffee for a day I am starting to feel a little better. Coffee is not for everyone.