Thanks for the replies. Have not been able to find any resources though through the recommended ideas.
Most assisted-living places are, of course, for elderly people or those in-transition after an illness. He would not fit in to that model. But, I'm surprised there are not such places for younger people who clearly can't cope with life themselves.
I'm thinking of something that is laid-out like an apartment building where each person would have their own front door going to the outside (he would insist on that) and a loose structure---he doesn't do well with anyone exerting any type of control over him. He believes he can control his life himself though it is clear to anyone around him that he can't.
He therefore needs regular supervision. Without that, he hoards and shuts himself inside until the living situation becomes unhealthy and unsafe. If such an assisted living place existed, he might start attending meals and have some, limited social life. Living the isolated way he is now can't go on too much longer and the one person who occasionally watches out for him is limited in what they can do.
He chooses not to see a mental health professional. He's not a threat to anyone or himself so its not possible to force that on him. That may change in time, but for now, he's only getting traditional medical care from an internist, etc. Some of those doctors have suggested a psychiatrist but he resists as he thinks he has no mental health issues.
Thanks for any ideas anyone might have. Maybe I'm just daydreaming about such a place being available (and affordable).
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