Sorry I didn't respond sooner. Was never notified you replied to my past.
svenne wrote:I think this must be a big part of the answer on how to get through impossible days. I know I'll always run into low periods, but remembering the light at the end of the tunnel must be the right way to cope with it. Believing that if we just keep going, situations or moods will change. It will never remain impossible for days and days on.
Pain and suffering are temporary unless we dwell on it all the time. Yet, you learn to treasure the good days only when you had those low days reminding you of what's precious. There are two situations when we really learn to treasure something, either we lost it or we never had it in the first place. I would prefer the latter since I'll still have it.
svenne wrote:I guess I stay with the status quo on good days
And I would like to believe this - that we grow most during pain and suffering - but is it true? I'm just not sure I'm growing from it.
Do you feel like you developed mostly during the hard times?
Well, I think we must see things this way. Let's say you are a young adult and have a number of bad habits that will hurt your future. If you are passing all the courses and graduating without any problems, will you ever change those habits? It's when you are struggling to pass and when you start asking yourself why this is happening that you begin to improve yourself. I honestly think we need to improve ourselves during our good days too. By improving, I meant being more selfless. When you have a good day, try to help someone with a bad day out.
svenne wrote:I like the way you see darkness as a challenge. It makes it less dangerous and more possible to overcome.
As someone who had been loner for much of his life, I have seen darkness in its many forms. Darkness has been portrayed by our society and literature as this evil things that light must triumph over. We must remember that there is no light if there's no darkness. In other words, the darkness is what makes you complete. Lack it and you lose a lot more than you think.
svenne wrote:This is true and I think the self-awareness I've experienced lately is a gift. And it took some pain to get that awareness.
Ironically, it's the pain that teaches us the lesson which we remember. If we get burned on the stove when we were kids, we stayed away from the stove. Lots of people fear pain but I think it's merely another aspect of life. Avoid it and you'll never move forward.
svenne wrote:It helped and soothed me, thanks
I feel better today.
Sorry for the late reply! I'm happy to chat whenever so PM me if you need someone to talk to. I generally just write a journal to help me get thoughts out of my system. I hope your day is improving day by day!