by Alucard » Tue Jun 13, 2017 3:14 am
I won't say you should or shouldn't see a doctor.
What I'm hearing from you is that you really enjoy having people come and share with you, come and connect with you, but if you have an opportunity to connect with them you feel a wall up, you can't communicate what you wish to. There's not a lot of mutuality in those relationships then, by no fault of anyone (it's not your fault or your friend's fault) instead there's this sense of you wanting and having to help others, and getting nothing in return.
It's hard for me to open up to people as well, and when other share with me I am ecstatic and also uncomfortable, because I know I won't be able to open up to them in the same way they have opened up to me. I deal with a lot of trauma and abuse from my childhood, and I was often told to never express my thoughts, opinions, likes, dislikes, nothing--I was kept silent my entire childhood, and well into my adulthood. So when others share with me, I am incapable of returning the favor. I'm working on it.
I don't know your story, so I won't make any assumptions. I only dropped in to say I feel your pain. Getting a label won't change what you experience. It sounds like things are rooted very deep. When you said it makes you feel worthless when you feel someone doesn't need you, it sounds like there is a deep issue with confidence or self-worth. These are all normal feelings, all of it, whether you receive a label or not, it's all normal. It's disruptive, and hard to deal with, but it's normal. You've identified a lot about yourself, and that will really help you in your journey to getting comfortable with yourself.
I like living in the world in my head because I'm in charge half the time.