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People don't understand me when I speak

Postby MotherHorseEyes » Tue Jan 03, 2017 4:14 am

Is it my volume, my pronunciation, do i stutter and mumble, do I have an accent or some speech impediment?
I don't know. All I know is that it's annoying. This combos with my other minor communication problems I have and creates a social disaster.
Does anything like this happen to you?
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Re: People don't understand me when I speak

Postby FreakOfTheDemonDoll » Tue Jan 03, 2017 6:30 am

WickedRob wrote:Is it my volume, my pronunciation, do i stutter and mumble, do I have an accent or some speech impediment?
I don't know. All I know is that it's annoying. This combos with my other minor communication problems I have and creates a social disaster.
Does anything like this happen to you?

I hear myself say "bird' but people hear "board."
All my life, I hear things I say right but people say my speech is wrong like they make fun of me and over-exaggerate my speech like I say "er" words and they mock me by switching "er" with "or", it's annoying.
I think it's all just some conspiracy to mock me.
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Re: People don't understand me when I speak

Postby salted lipstick » Tue Jan 03, 2017 2:32 pm

I've had the problem of people not understanding me when I speak also. In my case, I run my words together a fair bit with a fairly strong accent and I don't really talk that loudly so people have interpreted me as mumbling sometimes. In addition to these things, people didn't understand me because I used a lot of slang, so those that had grown up with my background knew what I was talking about but mostly everyone else didn't. I didn't view the slang as slang because to me it was just how people normally spoke until I started to realise that other people didn't know what the words I said meant.

I found a good way to help myself be understood was to practise the pronunciation of the people reading the news. Also, to use the vocabulary of the people around me. And to speak louder and with the words more separated when people said "pardon" or "what" to what I had said earlier.
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Re: People don't understand me when I speak

Postby Chainsaw » Tue Jan 03, 2017 2:37 pm

Ask the people who don't understand you, may they could give you some tips?

Maybe you're just shy without being aware of that, which results in speaking not loud enough.
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Re: People don't understand me when I speak

Postby Wally58 » Wed Jan 04, 2017 9:34 pm

I took choral (singing) and public speaking classes in high school.
It is important to hold your head up to decompress the throat when singing or speaking. The classes also helped my posture and breathing which is also an important part of singing and speaking.
I had a tape recorder and hated hearing my own voice (do I really sound that bad?) and didn't like what I heard back. I was able to practice speaking in private, so as not to be embarrassed by what I heard. I used to practice reading a page from a book, so I could hear how I sounded.
Eye contact can also be important in communication, it means that you have to face the person and facial expressions convey a lot of non-verbal backup to what you are trying to get across.
I am shy and public speaking would scare me. Each one of us had to speak in front of the class which wasn't bad. It did help my confidence level. There were people more frightened than me to speak to the class.
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Re: People don't understand me when I speak

Postby schitzo1 » Thu Jan 12, 2017 5:31 pm

Sometimes I feel like I am speaking Greek to people. I actually say exactly the thing I mean and I never say what I don't mean. It's like there is this secret fake language that everyone else has and I don't. People say tons of words. They dance around topics in some sort of elaborate charade. When I say something... there have been at least 200 thoughts that go through my mind weighing and balancing and trying to understand the heart of the matter. I don't say anything that I don't thoroughly contemplate first, but everyone else seems to say nothing at all or a whole lot of words that mean nothing at all. I'm usually left confused. Why would you say that? What does it mean in that context? Then when I formulate carefully what I want to say everyone looks at me like I spoke some alien language and they all look uncomfortable and then ignore me and keep jabbering on about #######4. It's extremely frustrating.
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Re: People don't understand me when I speak

Postby bipolar123 » Fri Jan 13, 2017 12:45 pm

Maybe you need a speech therapist.
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