Britishperson wrote:Hello, I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now long distance, but have since worked out she is histrionic.
I love her very much and want to be with her but I find myself getting exhausted by her over reactions.
she doesn't recognise she's histrionic but she admits she's selfish and over reactive
She tells me I must be gentle with her when I point out some things that are wrong. Am I doing the right things?
Big C wrote:Whether she is HPD or not, if one person in the relationship always has to walk around on eggshells and always be the one to accommodate, that is not a good thing.
Britishperson wrote: Am I doing the right things?
Britishperson wrote:she admits she's selfish
thisislabor wrote:sounds like it. not your first gf huh?
jmJMjm wrote:Britishperson wrote: Am I doing the right things?
British, I forgot to mention that the right things to do is take care of yourself, to do the right things for you. If she is pd, she does not have problems you can fix, she has an illness that you cannot cure. Big difference.
In your situation that you described, I would begin contemplating very seriously what the right things are that you can do for you!Britishperson wrote:she admits she's selfish
Time for you, you, and more you!
darkblue wrote:British: 1. Check is she has some other PD traits (borderline, antisocial, narcissistic). Often, ther is co-morbid depression.2. Check if she cheats emotionally or physically on you. Quite probable. 3. Prepare for a devaluation phase. shortly. 4. Inform yourself (e.g. Emotional Vampires). 5. Give up on trying to help her - you can't. 6. Break up with respect and dignity. 7. Enter in NC. 8. Never turn back and run as fast as you can. 9. If not, you are heading towards serious mental and physical problems. It will be too late and you have been warned.
Aren't there any stories of people with histrionic disorder getting better? There must be some happy stories of things working out out there?