Good for you Sofrance.
I was accused of stalking too, like many others on this form, by our ex's. However, I am not. Only confronted her once and walked away. Each situation is unique. However the common ground, is we are all seeking the truth, to set us free or to confront our ex's with the truth we do know. We are left with no real closure, no apology, dazed, confused and with a pile of lies. Some find that truth, before others. That truth is, they never loved us, and don't know any better and don't want to.
However, some may carry that search too far or seek revenge.Such in the case you experienced. I believe you when you say you were stalked. But most aren't like that, in my opinion. They are just wrongfully accused of it. Because, thier former HPD partner doesn't want to listen to or be exposed to thier own lies, deciet and short coming. They blameshift and become the victim.They just want us to go away in some cases. The quickest way to do that is with threats. Again, some cases it may be valid, but not in most in my opinion.
Again, good of you to have recognized that.