No Contact, question.

sofrance1 wrote:It is actually incredible how many messages I get from people who think I am their "ex". Human experience would appear to be not individual as we like to think.

Sofrance I have a female co-worker with HPD and usually I ask her to tell me how to react in response to my HPD ex-partner...I think all HPDs act, behave, live in the say way..they are so predictable..and yes this co-worker tell me exactly how my ex will act in the future..So that's why other people behave you as if you are their ex-girlfriend...I would really like to know a male with HPD to understand my ex's behaviour.

I agree with sofrance1. What's the problem? It's actually in your favor to have no contact with her and it settles the score if you do it. You will look back on it and feel strong and at least you one upped on her. Instead, be entirely pathetic especially if you still have feelings for her. I understand a little to where you are coming from. All my relationships I was involved with normal people I never cared a damn about and could forget them right away. Even if I had years with them. The few relationships I have had with BPD's and NPD's which have only been 2 - much difficult. But I was patient and made sure to put them in their place however long it took. If that meant a couple of years with no contact thats what it would mean. I would obsess about it initially for a up to one year and make sure I was in the most optimal position before letting it go. Then, I would be rest assured over time, and forget about it completely until I was back in my prime and had the whim after a couple of years to pay a visit. It has never failed yet. I will always be sought after in the end. I will tease them like but just be their friend and enjoy the attention and being taken out, bought things for, and ruining THEIR lives. I am being dead serious.

nomoredreams_reality wrote:I would really like to know a male with HPD to understand my ex's behaviour.

Personally, I dont think they're all that different in the actual play out of HPD characteristics. Out of curiosity, what in particular are you wanting to understand? lol-NOT that I'm a male with hpd.

fouquet wrote:I agree with sofrance1

What a surprise! lol

"I agree with Sofrance

"What a surprise! lol"

No one agreed with the Greeks when they said the world was round, Bam. Doesn't mean they weren't right though.

fouquet wrote:All my relationships I was involved with normal people I never cared a damn about and could forget them right away. Even if I had years with them.

fouquet wrote:I will tease them like but just be their friend and enjoy the attention and being taken out, bought things for, and ruining THEIR lives. I am being dead serious.

fouquet wrote:What's the problem?

Go figure!!!

I repeat "Whats the problem? " This is a thread about no contact. I think I gave the OP the answers to his question so whats the problem? She doesn't give a shit about him unless he was a challenge, maybe. If he wants to win her back he would need to not give a shit about her. Thats how it works. The problem I'm addressing is about having no contact. I'm the solution to his question, not the problem. Unless you are involved with me which you probably never could be. Your too pathetic.

What a classic case of HPD double standards and contradiction! One minute you cannot understand how or why 'no contact' could possibly be hard, and yet from another thread -

Fouquet wrote:
"When I meet some one and I think I really like them. I'm really nice. If things don't work out, I want to hear them say at least once, they want to kill themselves."

Talk about 'pathetic'!

That would be true for me as well. I need to know when my relationships are not working out well, the other person is in great distress. Or I put them in great distress.

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Fouquet, please don't be put off from posting on here. Its meant to be a discussion forum about HPD but what is amazing is that a lot of people don't actually seek any understanding and cannot cope with anyone being honest and trying to initiate debate. If you want positive responses on here you need to come on and say "I hate HPDs, they are such evil bitches and I have been so hurt and they are really really nasty".

You were being honest about your feelings and its a pity that you received such negative responses. People aren't here aren't really seeking enlightenment through knowledge, they are seeking pity.