Hi Nico, you wrote;
nico wrote:yes it sounds like HPD because the childish manipulations, the noticiable hiper- emotionally responses and some dramatized lenguage but there are things that don't fit well like delusions of infidelity (jealousy) she had very often, at least once a week, or so increasing the frecuency to the end of the 3 years relationship. I haven't read other HPD cases having jealousy delusions
My male HPD def had/has 'jealousy delusions'. In the later days of our rel, every time my phone would ring he would say things like 'is that your other boyfriend?' and constantly make little comments indicating that he though I was cheating on him. I usually didnt respond at all, esp later when I knew for sure that he was a cheating, lying *&$#!@# !
He also twisted his 'stories' concerning his past relationships (3 marriages) so that it was his wives who HE caught cheating on him rather than the other way around (which I now know it was). It's interesting how they even have the gall to accuse their partners of cheating and being unfaithful (interesting word that one) when they themselves are doing that exact behaviour themselves. You would think you would ignore any talk which raises thoughts of cheating.
nico wrote:make me doubt it could be something else different than HPD. ( hopefully something easier to treat...)
I wouldnt spend too much time straining yourself to justify your personal diagnosis - recognising behaviour which is destructive to you and your relationship is enough. I also wanted to completely 'understand' my X and then subsequently spent too much time on pondering on how/whether I could help 'fix' him. Waste of time, I should have spent that time focussing on myself.
nico wrote:If someone ask me what were the most noticiable characteristics I sense from her, it was obssesion, like if she can't be with me all the time she will die
Yep, got plenty of that too. It's all just words. If I have learnt one main thing i think it would be to pay more attention to behaviours and actions rather than words...also to watch out for words matching actions and behaviours.
nico wrote:She would no apology even when she finally cheated on me and got pregnant from her one-night- stand, She was seeing herself as a victim of the circumstances her concerns were 1) she will lose me (but it wasen't her fault) and 2) she was pregnant and also wasen't her fault. Infact she didn't make much attemps to appology
One night stand? Doubt it. Nothing is EVER their fault, therefore, no need to apologise.