Hi ladies,
I am 23 year old, recently graduated business major, who is being treated for BPII as well as seemingly pathological traits of both NPD and AsPD, neither of which i am officially diagnosed, but both of which my therapist finds to heavily effect my ways of life.
Recently, I dated a classic HPD. Very people pleasing, extremely emotional, always on the go, always in good spirits (at least in public), very empathetic and seemingly caring. She once told me, "I don't feel beautiful unless i am acting beautiful", which was the very first hint i got that she had esteem issues. Before this, she came off as very self assured, and to this day i still believe she is. At least she need not put down others to bring herself up, right? This i loved and respected about her.
And she, she loved the fact that i was so different than her.. she knew there was a disconnection within me, but tried to fix it regardless. I reminded her of her first serious boyfriend, except less possessive and less jealous. Maybe the reason i was less jealous was because the relationship didn't mean as much to me as it did her, but honestly she grew on me and gave this unrelenting love and care that i just can not ignore.
We fit together so well.. our looks, personalities, star signs, literally everything. The one problem we ran into was, when she came home in a fit from work and not all smiles, I literally dumped her on the spot. I feel like if she did not maintain her original positive energy toward me, than it was all fake and not worth my time any longer.
So i guess i wonder.. do HPDs tend to look for individuals that they may deem "psychopathic", as my ex did? Or, is it more just them falling victim to the emotional manipulator?
A better question may be: Would you ever get back with your emotionally detached ex, if say, he was abusive? Was it worth it? Is there another type of person you would prefer other than someone like me?
Because, i am not trying to sound full of myself, but we really do fit like peas in a pod.. HPDs can help me feel, while i can help them relax.
Thoughts?