I know this is a late answer to a old topic but i just can't help responding to it.
I think that the fragility of people having HPD is really exaggerated. See, the girl is not on a HPD support forum trying to figure out what to do. You are. If she is HDP, she would
love to know that.
From my experience and my experience only:
If you want to see if she really cares, don't look for crying or depression signs in her, if she let's you see it, it's probably fake
. The point of being histrionic is not showing true emotions, you have no idea how uncomfortable is doing that ( or you do, idk ).
Just look just for a really, really big disaster in your near proximity
Have in mind that if she was me, then you would probably have all your friends telling you how great i was last night and all of your exes showing up in my "new friends feed" on Facebook. And that's just top of head at 3am in the morning.
And if you have any doubts, think about this one. If there was an hypothetical mob, the guy wielding a pitchfork would be AsPD but the guy yelling burn the witch and pointing would be most definitely HPD or NDP