Kabuhi wrote: But what kind of sample sizes are you talking about here? Have you met dozens of straight men, but only a only a handful of homosexual men? If so, it's not really fair to say that gay men aren't more like to have HPD based on that.
If we're talking percentages, its probably the same amount going either way. I do know alot more heterosexual men than I do gay men. Though I live with 3 gay men, and know ALOT of gay men. Most don't fit HPD, not even most of the effeminate ones. Effeminacy and flambuoyance are different, and yes I count the flambuoyant ones as possibly being HPD. At least the ones that are attention grabbers.
I strongly think one of my exroommates is HPD though, just the way he acted and what I've seen on this forum and the diagnostic criteria....
Though yes, the stereotype does fit HPD alot of the time. Though keep in mind, the stereotype is based on the image of a gay man being all dramatic in order to grab attention. And it probably originates from that once being alot of peoples only exposure of what homosexuality is, because the ones that act just like everyone else tend not to be that way.
I'm mostly gay (though bisexual), and to be honest, I fit next to none of the criteria for HPD. Similar though, but only because I have BPD.
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