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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby Otter » Sat Jun 17, 2017 5:07 am

Congratulations TSL!

TheSweetLife wrote:Aargh!! I am so annoyed. I typed a long thank you post to NSR for the gorgeous cake, pressed submit and lost the post completely. Tried again, saved to drafts, lost the post again. :(

Anyway, the point is I am so thrilled with the cake NSR. I appreciate that you've made an exception (some of us are just a bit slower at grasping the recovery concept :) ) I am now just minutes away from Day 51 and safely in my bedroom in my pjs. Hubby and his brother are golfing in the morning, so I had a little twinge of "I deserve a break too". Luckily, I recognize that it's the tiredness talking. I spend all day cleaning and getting the house company ready, cooking and running errands, so I am well and truly baked.

Thanks again, NSR. I imagine you in a most heavenly smelling kitchen with a smudge of flour on your nose, surrounded by many creative cakes just waiting for takers. :D

TSL



Tech note (addressing the bolded above) - the server will time out if the submit button isn't hit after a certain period, so people who type up long posts can lose their post - as you did. I tend to type long posts in a text editor and then hit REPLY and copy/paste into the input box.

cheers - Otter.
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Sat Jun 17, 2017 4:17 pm

Yes , it happens to everyone I think !

Otter has a good suggestion . I sometimes open a word document and type my post there but mostly I've learned to keep it short and sweet . ( Most of the time , anyway . :D )

Anyway - you are doing brilliantly and I want you to celebrate every day you beat the urges .

And yes , you do deserve a break too - anything but gambling . Because compulsively throwing away money is not relaxing in and way , shape or form . The addiction lies to us . It tells us we "deserve" to be able gamble if we want to , it tries to convince us that we're denying ourselves something "fun" and "good" . Gambling is neither of those things .

It's all bait , designed to lure us back into the trap . At this point in your recovery , the fog should be lifting and your rational brain is taking back control from a mindless , destructive compulsion .

Use that clarity - it is a powerful weapon .
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby TheSweetLife » Mon Jun 19, 2017 3:16 am

Thanks for the post, NSR, and for keeping me on the straight and narrow this weekend. Very busy weekend with normal, happy things. B.I.L. visited, it was lovely. On Saturday night, I took off to visit my family two cities away. On the way there, I was sorely tempted to make the exit to the casino I visited most often. I drove on and didn't give it much thought after.

I visited with my sister, we went to see my gorgeous, 96 year old Dad who is the most delightful older person you could ever meet. Love him to bits. Then visited my niece and her amazing little daughter. Had a great time. Didn't send a single resume, which was part of my intent for going there, but saw lots of family which is what I needed.

On the way back, the urge struck much harder. I only had a very small amount of cash on hand, but that hadn't stopped me before. My magical mind imagined winning thousands with just the pittance I had. I flipped flopped several times before driving past the exit. What made me choose sanity instead?

I remembered each and every one of the 52 days that I fought so hard to get. I imagined coming on here and going to group and admitting that I had gone. My gambling brain told me it didn't matter, I could just discard everything and move on. I am so grateful right now that I did not.

Here's to another day and night of sanity! :D
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Mon Jun 19, 2017 7:46 am

TheSweetLife wrote: I flipped flopped several times before driving past the exit.


Those are the moments when you begin to know you're gonna make it . How many times in the past have you gotten the urge , accessed the rational part of your mind and overcome the compulsion ?

Before my recovery began to really take hold , it almost never happened .

The sane part of my brain would be screaming Noooo in vain as I walked myself into the casino with my last few desperately needed dollars . It felt like something had taken over my body and I could only watch , disconnected and helpless , as it drove me into the casino against my will .

What you did is a huge achievement , the taking back of control from the addiction . There will be more challenges and you will turn every one into a victory because you've just proven that you can .

Well done !
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby gran » Mon Jun 19, 2017 3:54 pm

Well done everyone, so inspiring! All of us just putting this addiction to bed, hopefully forever, I think today I feel as though I have truly put mine to bed and for good! We have had a pretty awful time here in the UK over the last month, has felt like one horror after another. In my mind the gambling seems to have plummeted, it's like it's gone off my radar, I am by no means complacent, but right now I feel lucky to be alive, lucky to have some sanity in my life lucky that my only real worries are financial, keep strong everyone.
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Mon Jun 19, 2017 4:12 pm

Big hugs to you Gran , and all of London . Our thoughts are with the UK .
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby TheSweetLife » Tue Jun 20, 2017 5:06 am

Hugs from me too, Gran -- to you and all of London. I cannot imagine the stress that Londoners are under. Every few days it seems Britain is back in the news with another tragic event. I'll keep you in my prayers. It really does hit home though how precious life is and how obscene it is that we waste our precious time in casinos or on other rotten forms of gambling!!

Thanks again, NSR, for your continued support. This has been such a bumpy ride so far but your posts help to steady me.

I'm finding that as the days build, I'm forgetting to take one day at a time. I find myself panicking about the future and "that day" when I may walk back into a casino. I have absolutely no faith in myself at this point because of past performance. I hope this changes as time goes by.

That being said, I am so very grateful that I have the clean time that I do. My head is clearer and it has helped me to do the very many things I need to do for my boys as they prepare for post secondary education. I've had a lot of time to reinforce what I've taught them about money management. I didn't have a great deal of financial instruction from my parents, so I was determined to give them a solid understanding of the importance of money and of having an excellent credit rating. (I may have done my job too well though :D . My 20 year old physically shrinks away from tellers who constantly remind him that he could easily have a credit card!)

Day 54. Onward ...
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby NewSunRising » Tue Jun 20, 2017 3:41 pm

Onward , indeed .

I understand the not having faith in yourself . I relapsed so many times that I only half -believed that I would make it through my current recovery . But what choice do I have , really ? It comes down to two facts - I can gamble or I can not gamble . What keeps me on the road of recovery is that I now fully understand the consequences of both actions . It is a choice between a normal , healthy life or insanity disguised as " entertainment " .

One of the reasons why I am so devoted to this forum is purely selfish - after a while , I think we kind of forget how bad the battle was in the beginning . When I read your ( and others ) posts , I am not only cheering you on , I am reminding myself that I could so very easily end up back to that constant struggle with the urge to gamble that I have almost let myself forget about .

You are giving back to me as much as I am giving to you . I am by no means free of this addiction . I am only in control of it , and today , that is enough . Let that be enough for you too .
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby rainbowcolor » Tue Jun 20, 2017 4:56 pm

" I am by no means free of this addiction . I am only in control of it , and today , that is enough . Let that be enough for you too"

What you said NewSunRising is so true, I knew some people who went out after a long abstinence and gamble away far more than they would, much worse than if they had gamble regularly. I now consider controlled gambling playing with fire, once inside the casino I have no chance.

Thank you for sharing, you and so many posters here had contributed to my recovery over the years.
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Re: Post Number Of Days Gamble Free

Postby buster1969 » Wed Jun 21, 2017 6:23 pm

1,304 days gambling-free
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