imjustagirl wrote:The moment "YOU" (LOL) cause a narcissistic injury by reacting to some totally ludicrous thing they've said or done, you will start the devalue process and it will only get worse and worse until they discard you all together.
littlewing wrote: These people enter our lives to reveal these patterns and cause just enough pain so we're compelled to change (co-dependency, victim-mentality, whatever our issue is).
deepwater2011 wrote:And my biggest personal theory...we get out of one relationship with the stuff we didn't like (or something that was lacking) so fresh in our minds that the first person who is somewhat attractive in general (on whatever levels, not just physically) that comes along showing promise of what was lacking in the last round, or not having what we didn't like in the last person...well, that's the person we are all excited about discovering. And that kind of blinds us to giving the whole package a more thorough look because we are too busy being relieved to find something that different than what we just left that we didn't like.
littlewing wrote:If I criticize or shame an N and instigate an N meltdown/communication break-down, how does my apology affect him/her? Is this a show of weakness that give him him/her more reason to be disgusted by me, or is the gesture appreciated? What is the best way to bounce back from a fight with an N when you have crossed that boundary and trampled on their self-esteem?
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