Hi everyone.
First timer here. Glad to have found this forum, just to see I'm not "alone". But should I be glad there are other people suffering like me?
My story, trying to keep it short as I'm exhausted because of lack of sleep:
My wife of 10 years was diagnosed two years ago with persecutory delusional disorder. She believes she's a Targeted Individual, who's attacked, especially at night while sleeping, by the neighbors who are using "microwave" weapons. All night long she feels vibrations, electrical currents, microwave, and whatever else she can come up with. She can't sleep, is up all night crying and now screaming at the neighbors. In the process she's keeping me awake too.
This all started about 3 years ago now. In hindsight, however, I realize she's been delusional for much longer, albeit not in the sense of being targeted with weapons. More classical stuff such as extreme jealousy, or believing people in the street say mean things to her ( I mean *all* the time, not just once in a while), or spit at her, or believing the cops are stalking her, and so on. Back then I'd brush it off, as it wasn't really impacting me, well, we did have fights about it but at least I could sleep at night. I was also trusting her therapist to help her with those issues.
Three years ago it started getting worse. I'm skipping some parts here but basically she's been in fights with neighbors because of what she believed was happening to her. We were asked to move three times, one time we were officially evicted. Two years ago I had her admitted to the Psych ward, involuntary, were she was diagnosed. Insurance co kicked her out after a week. She was given risperdal, and had to go to regular therapy. She did for a while. We were able to find a small house to live in, no direct neighbors, yay! She stopped going to therapy and taking the pills, as she firmly believed she wasn't mental, that all that stuff was really happening.
For about two years, things were fine, more or less, thanks to living in a house. Recently, "it" started again. You may have read about those american diplomats getting sick in Cuba? Sure enough, that's exactly when it started again.
She hasn't had a full night's sleep since weeks, and is starting to blow up. I know that I have to take care of myself first, so I tried to sleep through it all, not enabling her delusions. But it's become impossible as the longer it last, the heavier her outbursts are, and it's impacting my health now, waking up in the middle of the night all stressed out...
I'm considering taking her back to the psych ward, as she refuses treatment. The last years have been hell, because I always knew her strange ideas were always there and it was just a matter of time.
I've been reading this forum, talking to a friend who's a psychologist, and am about to go talk to one myself, on a professional level.
From what I can tell, this is not going to get better until she gets on meds. But we're talking about someone who's very skeptical of western medicine here!
I love her, but I really feel I will need to take drastic decisions soon, and leave her, for my own sake and health. As someone else wrote, i only have one life. Is this selfish?
But then again, if i were to do that, HOW? She has no money and basically depends on me for everything! Ugh, such a headache..
Anyways..
Not asking any questions here, just wanted to vent and share my experience. I skipped a lot of parts. I may have to re-read and edit this tomorrow, because right now my sight is blurry.. Need to sleep.....