by xdude » Thu Nov 24, 2016 12:38 pm
It's a positive that you mean well and want to help, but just another opinion...
Often we are just too close to the problem to provide the kind of help a therapist could provide, but therapy also only works if he makes the choices to work on healing his emotional wounds.
Oliveira wrote:I don't think you can fix him. I remember before I went to therapy there was something like a black hole in me – you could throw as much joy, happiness and love into the hole as you wanted, it would just disappear in there. ...
Yes, when someone has that 'black hole', while love and support can provide a bit of temporary relief, it won't last. Therapy really can help, if he is committed. He could also end up more depressed for a while as a result of therapy, but rather like surgery, it's going to hurt before it gets better.
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