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Have confronted N - week of ST - now the big talk

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Re: Have confronted N - week of ST - now the big talk

Postby Rocky71 » Sun Apr 19, 2015 12:41 pm

Foolforyou wrote:Thankyou, I will check it out

He doesn't have any self harm traits or anything like that.

What he does do is buy his ex partners houses. I find this very odd. On one occasion where he was ending the relationship for the millionth time he offered to buy me a house. I said "er no thanks, I've got a house"

He lies an awful lot too - he lies when the truth would do. And I think sometimes he genuinely believes his own lies

He has lots of good qualities too or I wouldn't want to be with him. He's very successful professionally but I have heard him speak about his elder more successful brothers and he said he feels intimidated by them.

He's quite complicated and hard to understand . We don't seem to be able to live either with or without each other


Sounds like a Cerebral Narcissist. You might want to do some research on their relationship with women.

Here is Vaknin's take.

http://samvak.tripod.com/6.html
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Re: Have confronted N - week of ST - now the big talk

Postby VioletAasA » Sun Apr 19, 2015 2:46 pm

Foolforyou wrote:
I think the only questions I really want an answer to is "does he want me to leave him?"



I think this is the wrong question.

The question you should ask is 'what do I want', IMO.
Once you are clear with what you want and what you don't want, that puts you into responsibility for your own decisions, and this whole thread may be about that. You don't want to be responsible, or you don't want to face dificult decisions.

You are bitting around bush to avoid your own pain for not getting what you want, IMO.

Meanwhile, you may want to read about NPD/BPD attraction. There are several threads, and a lot af insights about the dynamic of unhealthy relationships.
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Re: Have confronted N - week of ST - now the big talk

Postby Ada » Mon Apr 20, 2015 6:57 pm

Moved to a more appropriate forum. Please PM me if you have any questions about that. :D
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Re: Have confronted N - week of ST - now the big talk

Postby Foolforyou » Wed Apr 22, 2015 7:48 pm

Silent treatment and rage

Guess I asked for that

I don't want to love him anymore , he makes me miserable, but I cant stop it
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