Retarded Ejaculation - Clinging onto hope!

Hi,

I'm 35 and after a series of failed relationships, of which retarded ejaculation has been a major contributing factor, i have decided enough is enough! A relationship has just ended for me and although i am devastated i think it has finally given me the kick up the backside that i needed. I'm not saying i have never tried to sort this problem out... i have had counseling on and off for about 7 years with little affect. I've been using pornography for about 20 years and have finally decided that this must be a highly contributing factor to my problem. I have joined SLAA (Sex and Love addicts anonymous) and had my first meeting last Thursday to try to stop the porn habit. Its early days but i will keep up attendance and try to stay focused.

Since the end of my relationship about 3 weeks ago i have been in a pretty dark place. I contemplated ending it all and had serious feelings of depression and anxiety regarding no one that would ever put up with my problem, i felt old, ugly and so tired. I quit my job and was so bad i just couldn't function and just wanted to curl up and die. I dragged myself to the local doctor and after an emotional consultation was prescribed Citalopram. This was around two weeks ago and although they have kicked in a bit I'm still depressed. As mentioned before i have spent years trying to sort this problem out. I have had many many different types of therapy, i even tried surrogate sex therapy where you have therapy and then ###$ the therapist. Nothing seemed to work and i guess the resignation to this thought was when i really thought whats the ######6 point, i don't work and that's that!

I've done a lot of reading about my problem on the internet over the past week, in fact I've almost treated it like my job! kinda 9-5. A lot of what i read described my problem exactly although didn't really offer much solution. I did come across one thread that made me feel really optimistic! It talked about fleshlites (imitation vagina) and how to re-sensitize yourself. This was the link to the site. I found it very useful and have ordered my fleshlite and am looking forward to trying the techniques. This was the site...

http://retardedejaculationtreatment.blogspot.com/2009/04/supplement-regime.html

I have been referred to a psycho sexual clinic by my doctor and should get an appointment within the next 4-8 weeks although I'm not sure the problem is psychological. I think its down to porn, excessive masturbation and desensitization. I hoping that all i have to do to recondition my body to find to get the stimulus its needs from a fake vagina and then the real thing.

Today is an optimistic day!

Please please please if you have any success stories or information that can aid my quest i would be very grateful.

Thanks in advance,

Darren

Any update...??

Do not close your door to try different ways and therapy to deal with your condition. You are aware of your condition and eager to help yourself, this is good sign and the first step to win your battle against ED. "mind-over-matter" believe and have faith. Trying a therapy or medication but you are in the stage of Disbelief is a form of stress that will hinder you towards your optimum potential of healing and recovery.