Just located this easy test on the web and wanted to share it..
do google search: Domestic Abuse Screening Quiz
You answered 13 items out of 20 Yes.
Your score is 65%. The higher your score the more likely you are in an abusive relationship. If your score is 25 percent or less, domestic abuse is unlikely. 25-50 percent, abuse is possible, and if you score more than 50 percent, it is very likely that your relationship has become abusive.