by falling28 » Sun Dec 14, 2014 5:57 am
I am 28 years old. I left my husband 6 months ago. We were in a relationship for 12 years, high school sweethearts, and have a 6 year old son. I left the relationship because of abuse. The abuse has honestly been present since the beginning, but it gradually worsened over the years. The past three years of our marriage were the worst. The day that I left, my husband had come home and found me packing to go back to our home state where our son was visiting with his grandmother. I wasn't supposed to be leaving for another week, but I decided to leave early. In four days, three incidents of violence had taken place, and I had had enough. Just 6 months prior, I had my husband arrested. It was the first and only time he had ever been arrested for abusing me, although the abuse had happened thousands of times before. I had left him then, but he somehow lured me back with false promises of getting better. He did attend anger management and therapy, but he actually got worse. I am giving the cliff notes version. Anyway, flashing forward back to the day that I left him. It was a Friday. I was running around the house packing my things, planning to leave in the car before he came home. I didn't make in time. He came early, 2 pm to be exact. He found me packing to leave, and he completely lost it. He held me hostage in the home. For hours, he terrorized me. I thought I was going to die. By some miracle, I escaped out the front door fast enough. He slammed my foot in the door and I fell to the ground, terrified and screaming. But I screamed. I screamed as loud as I could, and I got up and took off running. I ran to my neighbors home. I remember crying and screaming hysterically. There were women and children outside near our apartment. I yelled and screamed, "Didn't you hear me, didn't you hear my screams?" I know they had heard them because moments before, I was screaming out the window of the second story, the window that I was trying to throw myself out of before he grabbed me and forced me to the ground. He covered my mouth and nose so tightly and had my body contorted in such a way that I thought he was going to snap my neck. But no one came. Moments after getting out, I ran next door and went inside. I was hysterical and frantic. I went to the mirror and saw my face. Blood and bruises covered me. Anyway, with all that said, here I am, 6 months later, and I feel nothing. I have lost most of emotions. I rarely cry. I rarely feel anything. I just exist. I still manage to laugh, to live my life, to be a student and a mother. But, I feel empty. I feel like a zombie. Shouldn't I feel something? Shouldn't I feel something about the abuse? I am numb. I do not know who I am anymore. Is this a part of what happens? Does it get better? Do I begin to feel things again?