by GKOKD » Sun Sep 21, 2014 12:49 am
I've wondered about this a during and since my recent hospitalization. When I've been in the hospital before, my parents have told them that I couldn't take the stress of their misbehavior, which we've talked about a lot in times since then. Last time I guess they were told I was sad.
On the trauma unit, though, I've learned more about my abuse and I know I'm going to have to make some, at least, small changes in the family structure. I makes me absolutely rageful when they refer to my sister as AUNT Gretchen. They're going to find, as time goes by, that we don't see her anymore, but I'm not sure if or how to explain that to them. They may also find that they spend less times with the grandparents and my brother, but I'm not sure if or how that wil happen.
At least on days when things arent overly stressful, I usually manage to front around my kids, or make up some good reason why I need to be alone...I'm tired, or I need to work on the computer. I've also been pretty good so far at hiding the burn scars so I don't have to answer questions about that. They are 9 and 11 years old. They both have ADHD, My daughter has ODD, and my son has attachment issues as well as CP (which he has major surgery for next week) They were both adopted out of foster care and I'm not sure how well my baggage is going to affect them in addition to that which they brought of their own... but I can tell you that 41 is too old to finally find out about the family secrets. I do know, however, that fragile as they are right now, I don't want them to start taking on a care-taker role with me, nor do I want them to try to relate to me by acting like they have other characters inside.
I'll finally get to see my therapist next Tuesday. I guess it's something I'll need to talk over with her.
body is 48 yr old mother of 2 adopted teens
KK - 17 yr old f
2T - 2 yr old f nonverbal
"Little K" 3 yr old f
Christian - "The Rulemaker" - adult m
Seven - Young adult m
Kat - 7 yr old f
Major Depression, Anorexia, Anx Disorder, DID (or maybe OSDD), PTSD
Gracie - Greyhound Service Dog