I m just trying to cut out toxic friends.
Not sure when they are but I m trying to -
For now I define toxic behavior as: not listening or respecting the times I say no.
When I talk to the people that do that about it they start defending themselves.
Why am I not seeing them when they want to, why do I switch, why do they have to wait for the host to come back, why are some alters so different from the host, it s all as if there different people talkin why why why
I ve explained as much as I could how my system works, how DID works, I told them to find support about dealing with people with DID as I don t know what it s like to be waiting for someone to come out -
I just don t know how much more I can explain and defend myself and why when I say no they get defensive. What s wrong with me saying no? It s polite, I mean, I m not rude or .....
Been told I m hard to talk to or relate to or to understand, that we switch so often (and we do) and that all is confusing (which is true too). And that you never know who s gonna answer the p hone.
It s even confusing to me - so I get that.
But how can I prevent people from freaking out, how can I make them feel it s all gonna be okay - I mean - there s always someone to talk to, I always show up one time or another,I tell them that but it s not enough. And as said, when I say no, there s a real problem. They keep on calling or tex ting even tho we made it clear we can t talk for instance. I get that s no fun at all, not being able to reach someone. I get that part.
Is there anything more I can do, or are some people just not getting it -which can happen - and should I let it be?
Can I still be open about DID really? I mean, is it really too much for people? I ve found online it s okay and accepted by a few people but IRL I ve got one true friend who always stays cool and the others that know just pretend no one is around but me (the host) - when asked they just say they only want to talk to the host. So back to acting.
I dunno. I really don t.