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Please help! Difficult situation!

Postby Jtiffany » Fri Aug 12, 2011 8:34 pm

Here's the deal. My father is only 67. He was diagnosed with early onset dementia a few years back and it has progressed quite rapidly. He has diabetes, heart disease and the usual set of problems that go along with those. He has had several small strokes. He stopped taking all of his medication about a year ago. Whenever he has a "spell" (that we are pretty sure is another stroke), he will get dizzy, fall, or want to go to sleep. He has trouble with speech and all cognitive funtion at this time. When his happens my mom tries to call 911 and he refuses any assistance. Mom is also dealing with her 89 ueR old mother who is in the early stages of dementia and still lives alone in her home. It has come to the point where we can no longer give dad the care he needs and we feel he is a danger to mom and my sister who also lives with him. He is belligerent all the time, making threats, tries to keep my sister from bathing though we don't know why. A couple of weeks ago, mom tried to have the nursing home talk yet again. He said he would kill himself before he went there and we believe him. he doesn't leave the house, he's paranoid, he's only taken about three showers since thanksgiving. We just don't know how to handle him anymore. Mom is afraid of him and hates going home because she never knows what is waiting. He gets furious when she's on the phone or leaves the house to take care of her mother. The fact that he doesn't leave the house makes it impossible to pull one over on him and trick him into going to the NH. His doctor suggested that we call for an ambulance and tell them they need a police escort bevUse here are still guns in the house that mom hasn't been able to sneak out. It all came to a head today so we did as the doctor suggested. All we cod gt fro
The hospital and the police was a big fat "we can't help you." We are at out wits end. Mom can't keep living like this! Please help! I don't know if she has poa for him yet. I've left a message for the nursing home to see what they suggest. There has to be something we can do besides waitin for dad to hurt himself or mom. Any advice would be much appreciated!
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Re: Please help! Difficult situation!

Postby jasmin » Mon Aug 15, 2011 12:09 pm

Hi, Jtiffany! Is he taking medication? Is there better medication that the doc could prescribe, that might make him more docile, maybe? Is there any way that a doctor could see him at home?
If he's a danger to himself or your mom, something definitely has to be done. Wait and see what the nursing home people suggest. Have you asked the doc if you could have him committed?
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Re: Please help! Difficult situation!

Postby netomel » Fri Dec 02, 2011 3:27 pm

my father is a diabetic that was diagnosed with a combo of dementia - Alzheimer, he had been in control until recently. just last Sunday he left the apt while my mom was sleep. Now He doesn't make any sense with what he says but he still recognizes people. We don't know where to go from now on, what is the best choice for him, since he is driving my mom crazy. I don't if is like someone in the forum says is the medication for the diabetes that is causing the dementia to worsen. Should we put him in a specialized center. He lives of social security.
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