hi all. this will be long. 2 years ago, my sil(i will call her janet) and her husband were divorced. soon after the divorce she was showing signs of dd. the first we heard of it was because of a phone call from janet's ex-best friend(ann). janet had known ann's husband for 20 or so years and would talk about him as though she had a crush on him. ann called us because janet had been calling her husband and leaving strange messages on his work phone. these messages had to do with how the gov't was controlling our minds with fiber optics. ann forwarded these voice messages to us. my first thought upon hearing them was that she was faking. the voice she used was sing songy.....like a ghost voice you might hear on scooby doo. it just seemed like a really bad acting job. my husband spoke with janet and told her she needed to stop calling ann's husband. as far as i know, she has not called him again.
i spoke with her many times within that next month. she seemed angry that she wasn't getting more family support(emotional support) since her divorce. i knew that it was true that the family wasn't making her a priority...... i KNOW that we were all tired of her having to be the center of attention, plus, she was a complete bully to her husband when they were married. nobody blamed him for wanting out.
about a month after the calls where she was upset with the family and the lack of attention she was getting, i was speaking with janet on the phone. she began telling me about her thoughts(fiber optics, the gov't blew up the world trade center, the I-35 bridge did not collapse, it was faked using computers, etc.). i did not argue with her at all, but told her that i had not experienced anything like that, and that i would always listen to her. she seemed excited to be telling me those things. about 2 weeks later, we had a similar phone conversation where she spoke of those things again. since then, she has not verbalized these thoughts to me(or anyone that i know of).
for nearly 1 year she has not said/written anything about her thoughts. 6 months ago,there was a family email going around about kate(janet's sister) and how she was going back to school to get her master's. janet called me and was very annoyed that kate was going back to school and how kate "will do anything for attention". as the email went around, different family members would respond, giving kate encouragement, etc. after 8 or so replies to the email, janet chimed in and wrote a reply that was delusional in nature. of course, that ended the stream of happy messages for kate. 2 months ago, my mother in law was diagnosed with breast cancer. she had surgery, which was successful. she wrote an email after she got the all clear(of course this was a happy email), and janet's response had something to do with a mouse in her basement that knew all of the answers. again, she made everyone focus their attention on her. there have been many times where if someone in the family has good news, she will send out an email that is strange.
i would love some input, i know that nobody can give me a definite answer one way or the other. i guess i am just tired.....i've been the one that has been keeping in contact with her, as a favor to my inlaws. they are worried about her and have asked me to call her several times a month to check up on her. honestly, i don't consider janet a friend and feel like these phone calls are a waste of my time. have any of you experienced this kind of thing? is this just how the disease works?