by Henry Flowers » Fri Aug 21, 2015 3:57 am
Hey Dan - I agree with what JimtheLiar says. You have to slow everything down, so that you can think about every word that comes out of your mouth. It's possible to blab without thinking at all, and who knows what's going to come out when you do that, but if you slow down and think, you can make a choice with everything you say. It's tough to do, especially if you're in a habit of just talking. You won't be able to do it all the time, even when you have lots of practice.
Practice is the key, in my opinion.
Where are you going to college? I bet there's a health clinic where you can go in and talk to a counselor for free or for a minimal copay.
I lie when I'm afraid of getting in trouble. I anticipate what I think the other person (usually my wife) wants to hear, and then I say that. Often, I try to feel the way I think she wants me to feel. It never works, though, and I end up resentful and angry, and then I act passive aggressive.
What are some of the lies you've told? I have a hard time believing that you lie about everything all the time. Is it mostly to avoid something? Or to make yourself look better? Or is it really just totally random? Share some examples, and we can talk about it more on here.
It's great that you're figuring this out at 18. It totally sucks to be figuring it out at 47.
HF