by JimTheLiar » Sat Aug 15, 2015 3:23 pm
It's been a little bit better this week.
, mostly because I haven't made any commitment to her. I do have one standing commitment to do some reading, I have been slacking on it, I don't get a lot of sleep lately and by the time I'm ready for bed I'm exhausted and reading is not hi on my list,
not trying to make excuses, I just need to do it.
I agree about your wife wants to be able to depend on you, it's the same thing here, and sometimes I think she has standards that are just unrealistic, almost to the point that it seems I will always be setting up myself to fail, playing into her hand so to speak, then when I fail, the berating begins... I can't trust you, I can't depend on you, you're not changing... And the list goes on.
I'm home in socal this weekend, sleeping in separate rooms. She's worn out from camping last weekend and frustrated with me for some reason. I'm afraid of asking what the frustration is, I know I'll just get beat over the head with it somehow.
she asked me once why I stopped talking to her about what was going on inside of me, I told her that she usually will take what I say and use it against me.
it's hard to be honest when you seem to constantly get your leg stuck in the bear trap for what you say or do.