I too am a daughter of a child molestor. I've recently become fully aware of the things my Dad has done to my Aunt, stepsister, brothers girlfriend, family friends etc. I had never had a good relationship with my Dad until a few years ago, I was always afraid of him growing up. He never molested me that I can recall but I watched him do very harmful things to my mother beatings and he once came home and beat my babysitter with a bat. He had also molested a friend of mine when I was younger I think I was about 8 and she was 11, I was in the room when this happened but he kept pushing my face towards the wall so I couldn't see what he was doing. My friend at the time did tell me what happened, he had molested her. My parents were divorced at that time, and I had to go spend weekends with my Dad. After that I refused to go there, but I wouldn't tell my Mom or anyone why. He then cut child support off to my mom, they had a court battle and I had to return for weekend visits. When I was about 18 after years of him having relationships with all kinds of different woman, he met my step mom. They moved in together, she had a 4 year old daughter. I seemed to think that my step mom made him better, he was more family oriented and more caring towards me. We began having a good relationship for a few years. Then my step mother was told by her daughter who was maybe 6 at the time- that he (my father) had put his finger in her (my step sister). My step mother called my mom not only because of what her daughter had told her but also rumors she heard in the town we lived. My Mother did tell her about him molesting my Aunt and other kids in the neighborhood during their marriage, he even passed out child pornography for halloween one year. My step mom was going to leave him, she wanted me to tell her what I knew so I told her about my friend that it happened to. After that my step mom wanted me & my Dad to sit down and talk about it I REFUSED, I did not want to speak to him about it but she left the 2 of us alone in a room together. My dad accused my Aunt (moms sister) of "doing this to me" and saying that my aunt was the reason I was screwed up. I had no idea what he was talking about and left the house. After a few years of not speaking to my Dad or my step mom who stayed with him, I had to see them at a family wedding. We never talked about any of it again. I started seeing my father, step mom, step sister regulary I so despeartely wanted a "normal family" and thought he had gotten better. Turns out after years of us now being close again and me feeling like a had a normal family, my step sister has come out and told that he my father had mollested her from a very young age until she was 14 years old. She's about to turn 21, I had no idea and thought they had such a good relationship, I was even jealous that they seemed to have a better relationship than he and I did growing up. After this came out I was made aware of my Aunt, and the things that occured while he and my mom were married. I don't understand how and why I had to have weekend visits with him, after my Mom and my maternal side of the family knew of his behaviors. I've recently started counseling, and have not spoken to my father since this has come out. My step siter wants to press charges, so that he has to register as a sex offender but my step mom is still living with him and has asked her to wait until she "figures out what she's going to do". Its been about 2.5 months since this has all come out, and she hasn't left him. I'm not sure she's going too, I'm having a hard time with all of this and just do not understand how this could have gone on for 30+ years without him ever being charged. I'm distarught, can't focus, depressed etc. I can relate to your story and just wanted to share mine with you. We're not alone.