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10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby jprocker101 » Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:59 am

i dont know what to do, im 19 and my boyfriend just told me that when he was in 6th grade he touched his sisters friend when she sleeped over. i dont know what to do, im the only one he has told. i want to tell him its ok, but i cant. alot of things happened to me when i was young so this is really hard for me. he is falling apart. he will not stop crying. please someone help me!!!!!!

p.s he is harmless now, he is the sweetest guy i have ever meet but i just cant look at him the same way.
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Postby tangerineblossom » Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:46 pm

I'm not sure if this will make you feel any better, but think of it this way. Ten year olds are children and they're curious. They also don't really know what is appropriate touching and what isn't. Now if he were an adult and had done this, that would have been wrong, but children just do stuff like this because they're children. It is very common for kids to "play doctor" to learn about each other's bodies.

Judging someone based on something they did as a child is probably not a good idea. He shouldn't judge himself either. Kids to kid things, and that's a very common thing for a curious child to do. It doesn't make him a pedophile or sexual abuser. It makes him a person who was a curious child.
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Postby Parador » Tue Jul 01, 2008 11:37 pm

It doesn't sound like anything serious to me either. It seems like normal curiosity at that age.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby harmonica » Wed Jul 22, 2009 1:26 am

I concur. Normal.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby Leviathan » Wed Jul 22, 2009 11:31 pm

Big fuss over nothing.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Thu Jul 23, 2009 3:50 pm

I don't know if I'd call it nothing... if it's unwanted touching it's sexual assault..... if he's crying it could be because of guilt.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby Leviathan » Thu Jul 23, 2009 4:02 pm

If it's unwanted touching, that's hasn't been indicated though. If it was wanted touching, well they were just kids, not saying it's okay but, what can you do.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Thu Jul 23, 2009 4:26 pm

morning star wrote:If it's unwanted touching, that's hasn't been indicated though. If it was wanted touching, well they were just kids, not saying it's okay but, what can you do.




Not all kids just touch though, it's not something every kid does.

He's feeling guilty over it it seems, so that makes me think that he knows he did wrong.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby Leviathan » Thu Jul 23, 2009 4:44 pm

I'd say most kids don't touch eachother sexually at 9 or 10. A lot do kiss eachother at that age, but that's as far as it goes.

He could be upset thinking he shouldn't have been doing stuff like that at ten, and he may have been doing it but not for sexual reasons, and he looks back now and thinks what he did was inappropriate.

Let's say he was doing it and it was unwanted, well not much can be done anyway since he was a kid and may not have known that it was wrong.

Not saying it's okay but that's life for you.
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Re: 10 year old boy touches 9 year old girl in her sleep

Postby Butterfly Faerie » Thu Jul 23, 2009 5:22 pm

yeah you're right not unless he admits to it, I am more concerned for the potential victims, and how they are doing today.
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