Here is my story:
I had a nervous breakdown in my 17s. Since that I suffered from depression and anxiety. It happened in the last year of high school, I was very stressed because of my school leaving exams. I really wanted to succeed and leave home. My father was very agressive towards me, when I was younger he used to hit me. Only me, never my mother or brother. When I was complaining to my mother she told me that it had been my fault and I should stop to provoke him. I was hited because he found out that the window in my room is not open, another time it was open, or there was a smelling-stick in my room. My parents used to tell me how much money it is to feed me and to take care of me. My father has never worked, he has a social support but he told me that I will have to give him everything back in the future. Only my mother works.
Because of my diagnosis it was very hard for me at the university, but I finished it succesfully. My depression was cured 3 years ago. But during last year of the university, I started to suffer from chronical fatique. I decided to have a gap year and then to continue my PhD. During gap year, I was working, travelling, living with my boyfriend in another city. So my parents did not have to give me money. Also during my studies I had stipendium and I was travelling home once a month. My mother was given as much money as my stipendium was as a plus to her salary, a child support as I was still a student. She told me she spends it all on me (during those two or four days per month when I was at home).
Now I am at home for four months, waiting for my entry exams. During this time I found myself a half-time job.
My father also had a nervous breakdown 25 years ago and since then he is treated as a psychiatry patient. He told he cannot work because of his illness, he is at home sitting in front of the computer. He told he has too many health problems to think about a job. He started a university before his breakdown for three times, but never passed through first semester of college. He tried to work but from the firs job he runned away after three days, and now he found a job for 10 months - administration in our hometown. During this time he was visiting psychiatry, psychologists, bought many medicaments and was asking his doctor friend for special treatment. He was too stressed from work, but wanted to keep it as it was kind of the money-for-nothing.
I have a big problem with him. I had an urinary bladder inflammation, was sitting whole night in the bath as it hurted me so much. I asked him to take me to doctor. He told me there is no inflammation, that it is only in my mind and that I suffer from neurosis. Last time after antibiotic treatment my sleep went so bad that I was sleeping like 4 hours per day. I hoped it will get better spontaneously so I waited for 3 weeks to visit a doctor. I am taking antidepressant to cure my fatique, and my doctor told me that it is normal that an infection can cause a temporary complications. She told me she is surprised that I look so good and have only fatique problem without any mental complications. When I got home and told it to my father, his statement was that I am a hypochonder, giving too much attention to my illness, and that he thinks even the doctor cannot believe me anymore. That it is all in my sick mind.
He persuaded me that I am a seriosuly mentally ill person (he bought a book about mental illnesess and told me it is like he was reading about me). Please, can someone tell me how to find a way to my family? Not to be treated like an invander?