This is exactly what has been happening to me.
I had it happen with my best friend turning on me and isolating me from everything. I didn't know what was going on at first, and she kept making out as though it was me not wanting to hang out with her. She kept trying to start fights with me out of no where and I'd address it maturely asking what was going on and she'd say it was all in my head. But then I'd be left out of everything and all our friends had a changed attitude towards me. Some just stopped talking to me completely.
I do know though what is going on with this girl as she has major problems. She was brought up as a witness and is gay but has never come out. She tried to hit on me and when I rejected her (in a kind way) everything changed. She was always controlling and weird, I realize this more so now I'm away from the friendship. She didn't want me to hang out with other girls, she would get in the way of my dating. She even told me once she would be really upset if I ever found someone as it would take me away from her.
I went away for a couple of months and it's when she took the opportunity to bad mouth me to everyone we knew.
I came back and had not one friend to hang out with. I'd email or call people and just get snarky comments or no reply at all.
I kept thinking it would pass and all resolve itself but it's over a yr later and just keeps getting worse, any new friend I make these girls recruit and they then have a changed attitude towards me. They put me down in passive agressive ways, making out their concerned for me, that I'm insecure and that I can't find a boyfriend... on and on. When it's mostly they're talking negatively to everyone that has made things this way.
I don't understand any of it. I've been such a good friend. I've helped everyone through rough times and whenever anything bad happens to me, it seems they get some joy out of it. Then if I'm doing well they gossip about me and try to bring me down, I just can't win.
I've also had a guy I met harassing me the past three yrs to top it off. I met him at a bar one night where he hit on me and he had a girlfriend at the time. He added me to Facebook after and I accepted but finding him so cute and having a girlfriend I thought I'd just get a crush and get hurt so deleted him.
Apparently my meeting him coincided with his girlfriend getting emails from someone saying he was cheating though and he has been blaming me ever since. We keep ending up in the same places so he's taken it as far as telling everyone he knows I'm stalking him. I get called names as I'm walking down the street. He ducks down on patios as I go by, but also has tried to approach me on several different occasions, and when I ignore him he goes to great lengths to make a spectacle of me again every time I'm out pointing me out to people then hiding. This guy has a slew of people believing I'm stalking him and I can't get most of my "friends" to even believe he's done any of it.
I feel incredibly isolated and depressed right now...I have one friend who believes me but have no idea what to do about any of this. Just is a bit much to handle and just seems to keep spreading. I'm completely lost, I've even considered leaving the city, but then feel as though they all have just completely victimized me if I do.