Feeling alright ... satisfied

I feel the need to pat myself on the back, and get a pat or two from others.

Today was an especially crazy day for me. A few weeks ago (who am I kidding ... YESTERDAY) I would have been in the fetal position reeling from whatever mess I made of my world based on my irrational reactions to everything.

Today I have been handling stuff amazingly well.

1) My boys woke me up fighting. The little one jumped on the big one's bed, and there was a war. I brought them downstairs, acted as if there wasn't even a fight and asked what they wanted for breakfast.
2) My husband was stranded most of the day in Detroit. Never once did I even THINK he was with another woman or trying not to come home. When he told me he was f-ing pissed and had to get off the phone, I actually felt empathy. I realized he was having a horrible day, so I gave him space. It was amazing because when he finally did call me back, he was SO NICE.
3) My computer crashed - I lost a whole bunch of research for this class I'm in (the last before I receive my MA). I didn't take a hammer to the laptop. I just set it in recovery mode, got a little (a lot) angry, took the downtime it gave me to hang with my little guy, and wrote the rest of my paper on the family computer.

I can't believe it. I feel like someone took over my body and made me react like a normal person.

I guess either DBT or TRE or some other acronym is kicking in.

Nice! (Pat on the back) Those are great. I call instances like those tiny victories - everyday accomplishments that we tend to overlook. It's easy for a lot of people to complain and get hung up on things that went wrong, myself included.

What's really nice, I think, is when you find yourself in a state where you can just handle all those obstacles that come your way, working through them without getting all chewed up by emotions.

That example with your boys fighting is a great instance of NOT putting more energy into a situation. It's like Judo.

Good job at avoiding all of the little trigger-mines that crossed your path recently.

You did AWESOME! :dance: That's not baby steps, that's like flying to the moon!

I'm glad you're recognising how big of an achievement this is. Well done!

I'm proud of you; you did great! You get a happy hug for that.

Well done I think the important thing is to stop, breathe and relax yourself. Try not to let the negative thoughts enter your mind. You did well, let it inspire you to keep going and keep reacting in this way!

OH YEAH OH YEAH OH YEAH!!! YOU GO, FLOMAC!!!


I'm really proud of you, girlfriend.

Please remember one thing - keep this thread, your post, in your pocket for a day that doesn't go so well. These things happen, and sometimes it's hard for us to remember that we've been better, we can BE better, and we WILL do better again.

HELL YEAH!!!! WOOOT WOOOOOOOOOOOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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That is awesome congrats! Every small victory is a step in the right direction and its good you see the good you're doing. It will give you something to focus on later to help you drown out the bad! Congratulations again! ******Pats on back*****

Yay Flo!! I hope things continue to go in the right direction for you!!

BIG PAT ON THE BACK!!