cacster wrote:I hold grudges for years...
If someone "crosses over" onto my hate list... I can hate them for life.
isoko49 wrote:In a brief summary - it's the black and white thinking that's all part and parcel of BPD. Try this exercise - think of someone you love/like and then try to write down 3 things you hate about them. And then do the same for someone you hate but write down 3 things you like about them. I find it nearly impossible to write down anything bad about the people I like or anything good about the people I hate.....and the excuses I come up with for them! If I like someone, I will put up with endless amounts of nonesense from them "because I like them".....yet if they were someone I disliked then it would be more ammunition for my guns. Some of the things my "nice" people do is worse than some of the things my "nasty" people do.....but because I have them slotted so carefully, I will put up with a lot! Things like "they're late; they probably got caught up with someone and didn't want to rush off as it would be rude"....for someone I like but in the same situation for someone I dislike "they're always late, they just do it do annoy me and they couldn't even be bothered to text me to let me know."
it's the black and white thinking that's all part and parcel of BPD.