wildernessrealm wrote:I get so frustrated because I'm sure I come off as boring, cold, or quiet and people always invalidate/bully/try and control people they see as quiet.
When people do that you have to metaphorically kick the $#%^ out of them. Metaphorically take a flamethrower to them and burn them to hell. Metaphorically beat them into the ground. If they do it again, beat them down again yet a bit harder. If they do it yet again, beat them down again but even harder. Honestly, it is the only thing they'll understand in these sorts of situations. If you feel you don't have the constitution or fortitude then develop it!
Part of how you develop it is the scars from the battles which grow into callouses. In this sort of situation victory will depend heavily on which of you tires first. So, let's say they win? They'll smugly and arrogant dust their hands and think "that's that." Now, you've got an opportunity to regain your strength. In everything exists an opportunity. Wait until you come across them again and come straight
at them. Wear them out. Make them wish they'd never screwed with you. If you have to, make them wish they were never born
There are some situations where you just don't have the time to wait and get to the root of the problem (the primary cause) so at least in the meantime
you have to get to the THROAT of the problem. There's an advantage to this as well. Once you've taken good care of the root cause be it through personal development or therapy of some sort; you will now have two
skill sets. You'll still have the ability to beat someone down in addition to any 'healthy' skills you develop. You will never be at a disadvantage. The world can't touch you.
Use your imagination; find out all kinds of creative ways of doing it. You want people to know your bite, but you don't want to be known as 'the psycho' either (I'm wagering). It's your rightful respect that you're after. Thing is, you wont have to do it to everyone as word will get around and/or the witnesses of the event will think "Damn, I better not mess with them." Make them right. It may be show at first but you want to work to make it real--channel your rightful indignation, frustration and anger and forge it into a sword, or a mace. Personally, I favor a two-handed battleaxe. The thing is, I don't really have to use it or flex it much anymore as I know I've got it and others know I've got it.
Once you know you've got it and your confidence shows it will come off to people--consciously or unconsciously. You'll give off a vibe even when you're completely silent. You'll give it off and not even be aware of it. The body language will fall right into place. Additionally, you'll be able to muster up glares that burn right through people's eyes and out the back of their skulls if you so desired. You wont even need to talk anymore as they way in which you unconsciously, naturally hold yourself will say it all.
"I assess the power of a will by how much resistance, pain, torture it endures and knows how to turn it to its advantage." -- Friedrich Nietzsche