miss_understood wrote:WOW, lilycat... you certainly have your mother sussed and you have certainly learned how to deal with her! Well done you!!
I'm unsure as to whether it's YOU who has BPD or your mother? Sorry, I haven't read any of your other posts....
A few questions...
Do you have siblings, and if so, does she treat the other/s the same as she treats you?
Have you ever confronted her about her bizarre behaviour, and if not, why not?
What does your father think about her behaviour... ie, hanging around with youngsters?
Have you ever thought about distancing yourself from her as she certainly doesn't seem to be supporting you or treating you as a mother would treat her child?
WHY do you have to spend time with her tomorrow? Can't you make an excuse? Even 'previously agreed engagements' can be broken, and it may give her time to think about how she treat you today!
WOW - you're one brave lady. I'd have given up on her years ago if my mother treat me like this!
Best wishes to you. I hope someone more qualified can offer you some advice, VERY soon!!
Lilycat10 wrote:The day that I spent with her actually went very well. When she's around my fiance she chills out a bit. Most likely because she probably thinks I tell him how she really is and wants to prove me wrong so he thinks I'm crazy. She did ruin my night though. I came home to her being drunk.. what a surprise. Couldn't remember a thing that happened during the day. I used to confront her about the drinking but it's no use. She lies and says she hasn't had anything to drink. I actually had to go into another room and cover my ears so I wouldn't have to listen to her loud, slurring drunk talk. It triggers my rage so I'm better off doing so. I then went to say good night and got accused of ruining everyone's fun. Mind you, I did nothing at all. I guess she thinks all of those times that I've stayed up until 6am making sure she didn't fall down drunk and crack her head open and die makes me no fun. Ok.. then I'll just be no fun..fine by me.
I read your post and I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother. I'm also sorry that she treated you that way. You didn't deserve it one bit and she missed out on having a great relationship with you. It's her loss, not yours.
Ahhh! Same with my mom. I'm almost positive she's only stayed married to get my father's money. I don't know why he doesn't see it. Maybe he doesn't care. Ugh I really don't know!