Pairou wrote: rabeeto wrote:
p.s. i dont like the tone of that article
I didn't bother reading it, it's always something negative.
I feel the same so I never read it either.
It's like we're condemned to a life of misery.
No wonder when some of us are diagnosed with BPD we think our life is over.
I was married for 3 years and with the man for 11, so yes it is possible.
I was diagnosed with BPD after we broke up. I wish I knew now what I knew then, maybe we'd have had a chance.
Since him, I have been in 3 relationships and ALL were destructive.
One was passive aggressive, one an alcoholic and another was to wrapped up in his own problems that he couldn't give to me 100%.
Anyway, the last relationship I was in, he was willing to be there for me (mental health nurse) but I was threatened by the thought he would constantly analyse me so I walked. I said to him it was a conflict of interest and I can't handle this thought.
I have just realised in the last 24 hours one of my exes believes I knew I had BPD when I met him, I actually had no idea. He thinks I deceived him and I should have been upfront so he could make a rational decision. I have tried to explain I didn't know I had BPD but he doesn't buy it. Oh well, but the thing I have decided to do now I am starting DBT is to not be in a relationship, get myself well, do things for ME (which will be hard) and ride the waves with support from my family, doctors and close friends. The temptation to want to be in another relationship will be great (and it is right now), but at the moment I am on some pretty strong medication so I really can't be bothered. It's like I am in a trance ... it's actually nice to feel this kind of relief, but I know it's not the end because something/someone will trigger something in me and I will lose the plot over it ...