by Private Joker » Wed Apr 15, 2015 7:39 pm
BPD man, not BDP, BDP is boogie down productions. Anyway, it appears you're gently pressuring her in a direction she clearly doesn't want to go. You're not twisting her arm, but it's obvious she cares what you think of her, and wants to look cool(jokes about adventures). Peer pressure is powerful, effective, and the reason you always end up hating the person putting pressure on you. I would definitely not suggest you initiate her into that lifestyle. I don't think it's good or bad, but she's clearly not interested. Don't interpret her words, but her actions. If you care about her you're playing with fire, and it's best not to have this on your conscience. Here's some anecdotal evidence. My friend was interested in the alternative scene as well, so he convinced his girlfriend(who was smokin) to play along. After a bit of fast talking and detective work he was invited to an orgy. It was an underground thing that people attended after the bars closed. Well, they attended, and the relationship deteriorated after that. He spent the next six months nursing a beer. I'm not sure if he ever recovered because he stopped hanging out altogether. I do know she dumped him, and you know for whom? A leggy blonde, yup, a girl!!!! Sucks to be him. It's good to be greedy and it's good not to share, but that's just my personal opinion. It appears you're really interested in that scene, and that's great, but remember you don't need her for that. A little investigating and a little talking should be your ticket in, but if you're just using her as a ticket in the door, then that's wrong, and you'll get dumped, guaranteed.