I know that BPD arrests development to the age of a 3 year old
The lack of a sense of self is a core feature of the psychopathology of BPD, and psychoanalysts have traditionally linked this phenomenon to pathological splitting of the ego and object. Splitting is often very marked in borderline patients, who may engender powerful yet conflicting feelings in different members of the psychiatric team. Such splitting has traditionally been thought of as a ‘primitive’ defence mechanism that indicates arrested psychological development. However, it may be an appropriate response to abuse from someone who is also a parent or carer. Recent research confirms the link between splitting and sexual abuse and suggests that it may, in fact, be a relatively sophisticated psychological mechanism for dealing with traumatic experience (Calverley et al, 1994).
ontheway wrote:I don't even remember writing on the Avoidence Personality board.
That also is the most attractive feature of my ex, who has such a warm childlike personality that she is able to put complete strangers immediately at ease. They feel, after a half hour, that they've known her for a long time. I think of it as having a purity of emotions. In contrast, the rest of us experience a mixed set of emotions because we are better able to be in touch with all feelings at the same time.ontheway wrote:One of the things that I noticed about by BPD ex straight away was her incredible 'child-like' personality ... She also displays incredible child-like wonder about the world around her, which was incredibly attractive to me.
On another forum, a BPDer said it is very common for borderlines to want to experience the childhood that was stolen from them. He claimed that it is not uncommon for BPDs to collect dolls and stuffed toy animals because they can love them without fear of abandonment or engulfment. I don't know how true that is.She LOVES kids movies and cartoons and childish, naive music and art, bright 'happy' colors.
ontheway wrote:It always seemed like she had two personalities: The 'child-like' one and the 'normal, regular' one, where sarcasm and impatience seem to be the order of the day.. This is a woman of considerable intellectual prowess, highly opinionated, well educated and righteous and rigid when necessary. Whether this 'child-like' personality was to attract/manipulate me or not I cant say.