DB, I believe that depends on how you define "manipulation." If you use that term to mean she had planned something in a shrewd and calculating way, I doubt she did that. It is possible, of course, but unlikely. Due to the intense emotions sweeping through them, BPDs typically are very reactive to what they are experiencing at any moment in time.dbruning wrote:[She used] manipulation.
I agree. I got so caught up in the control/manipulation discussion that I forgot to say how well you describe the cycle, DB. You describe a pattern that I immediately identified with. Instead of experiencing it for two years, however, I kept at it for fifteen.Heartman wrote:Manipulation, control both point me in a certain direction. Db your script may as well have my name on it so similar is the experience.
Heartman wrote:Simple question folks: If bpd's fear abandonment as much as it is said they do, then why do they sometimes abruptly dump their partners ? Here's the scenario: Bpd suddenly dumps NON saying 'I don't want you in my life. I'm cutting all contact & changing my mobile number, home number etc.' NON is dumped, no contact follows but bpd does not actually change the tel numbers as threatened. What's the deal here ?