Hi, I never get on forums, but I just had to post here. I really hate it when I see awesome people having to degrade and label themselves with some type of psychological disorder. I don't think there is a damn thing wrong with you at all. So what if you don't like crowds, and would rather stay at home. Why should that be considered abnormal? I am the same way, and have been since childhood. I had a VERY small circle of people, mostly my family that I socialized with, but I always felt I had zero in common with anyone. I had all kinds of counselors at my school up in my face because I didn't want to do my projects with anybody. Everyone else teamed up except for me. I was so happy sitting alone daydreaming and pasting colored paper to a baby food jar, and they couldn't let me be. I was "anti-social". I was "withdrawn" I was "depressed". I wasn't like the other kids so therefore I was ABNORMAL. I am the same way to this day, and I would dare any quack with a psych degree to tell me I had anything wrong with me. I think I was a victim of western culture, and so are all those people who have to put up with feeling defective because they don't want rush out and roll around and go crazy in a crowd of people. Western culture prizes outgoing people. Everybody wants a "People Person" for everything. I think wanting solitude is a biological and personal preference. I have even come across a study that found that social people lack a chemical in there body that somehow gets produced during the act of socializing. This sound dumb, but it was a long time ago. I am terrible with names. Anyway, the people that desire less social interaction don't need that same stimulation. I do think that some people have chemical imbalance (like me on Zoloft) or trauma that inhibits their natural desire for social interaction, but if you KNOW nothing like that is at the root why say you are defective? Even with Zoloft, I love my own company above that of anyone else. I GET me in ways nobody ever has. I really feel other people are like aliens, I just don't get them. I don't enjoy them. They are AVERAGE. I had to suffer for a long time, because other people who apparently knew it all, thought I should force myself to be with people I did not enjoy, or understand, or care about. Why the hell do that if you really deep down know you don't need it or desire it. I wonder if you guys are like me. A deep thinker. A creative sort. Someone who loves to sit alone and absorb a good movie without some A hole ruining it for us. Getting lost in your own little world? That's how I think of people like that. My sister is the same way. We feel like when people get personal with us even if they are family and we like them, we still feel really strange when asked to go join them somewhere. We both have in-laws, and we like them, but it's a feeling like being violated. I said it felt like being raped and seeing a ghost at the same time haha! We just let them know we do love them, but we just aren't the social type. This was long, I'm sorry, but I don't want to see anymore people agonizing over this. You are awesome. You are not defective. Different cultural standards around the world prefer introverted or extroverted people. Don't let anyone else define your happiness by THEIR idea of what that is. And also yes, People get on my nerves very badly. Lack of manners is the worst! I hate people that hurt babies and animals. There are some cool people, but for me, very few indeed. I think most people are scum, or just to average to even acknowledge. I am happy reserving the best of me foe myself. I want you to be able to have that freedom too. Drop the s*itty diagnosis and enjoy your alone time. We are kinda like cats in that way. Finicky with who we want to nuzzle with. So what. There are just more outgoing people than people who want to be alone, so that makes it look like somethings wrong, but it's just natural preference. I'd only see a problem if a person desperately needs people and want's all that obnoxious social crap, but has something keeping them back. Then for them to be happy, they would need some help to get them out there comfortably. I hope I am not really off the mark, but it just seemed like you really didn't have any desire to go out all the time, and thought you should. A little goes a VERY long way with me. I hope I'm right and didn't write all this to sound like a total boob. Are you guys British? Then I would sound like a tit. Well if I'm right, then you are just a cat. Enjoy yourself on your own terms, because you secretly know you are such an awesome person, you just would rather hang out with you than anyone.